“Managing ADHD = Managing Practical Matters = Stronger Relationships.” —Ari Tuckman, PsyD
WHAT IS ADHD? 🧬
Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder is a lifelong, neurodevelopmental condition.
It affects executive functioning: attention, impulse control, self-regulation, and time management.
ADHD is not just a childhood issue—it impacts adults and their relationships, too.
Low Dopamine (& Norepinephrine) Levels
Cause inconsistency in motivation and performance on certain tasks
Common Signs in Adults
Distractibility, disorganization, forgetfulness
Poor time management, impulsivity, talking over others
Difficulty finishing tasks or making decisions
Rejection sensitivity: overthinking, worrying, emotional reactions
💔 RELATIONSHIP IMPACT
Partner with ADHD may feel: • Overwhelmed • Different • Shame • Fear of failure • Unloved
Non-ADHD partner may feel: • Ignored • Emotionally blocked • Exhausted • Confused
Common Dynamic: Over-Functioner vs. Under-Functioner: A frequent pattern where one partner takes over responsibilities while the other avoids or forgets, fueling resentment and burnout.
✅ HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP STRATEGIES
Accept the diagnosis as a team
Externalize the problem: “You are not the problem—the problem is the problem.”
Improve communication and conflict resolution skills
Respectfully give and receive reminders to each other
Practice grace, humor, and structure
✔️TOOLS THAT HELP
💬 Counseling • Emotional support and mutual understanding • CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) • Executive functioning skills • Communication strategies
⏰ Lifestyle and Medical to Improve Functioning
• Quality dopamine boosts: nature, exercise, music, prayer, creativity, movement • Quality sleep • Use family calendars, analog clocks to “see time”, and visual systems • Balanced nutrition • Supplements: Omega 3, Zinc, vitamin B, vitamin D, and Magnesium • Consider ADHD medications (stimulants or non-stimulants) - talk with your doctor
🏆 The Reward of Quality Dopamine
Here is a list of suggestions for a beneficial dopamine rush : Taking walks in nature, traveling, spending time with family and friends, creativity, eating dark chocolate, listening to music, sunlight exposure, achieving goals, watching a sunrise or sunset, touch and hugs, finishing a project, petting a cat or dog, and meditation / prayer / singing… just to name a few!
By: Kelly Roberson, MA, LCMHCA, LPCA, (NC/SC), NCCNC Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor AssociateSC Licensed Professional Counselor AssociateNational Board Certified Counselor
References: Peg Dawson, Ed.D, Russell A. Barkley, Ph.D, Ari Tuckman, Psy.D
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