Everyone needs to experience a secure bond with another. This bond provides us a safe haven where we can find comfort and support and a secure base to go out into the world. This is a universal yearning that is wired into to us as humans. To be connected is to be stronger and more resilient without feeling immature or weak or too needy. A secure sense of being loved is empowering. When someone has our back we can explore new possibilities, use our courage to ask for what we want and need and deepen our compassion for our self and partner. Together we can find the secure bond, fun, love and caring that has been masked by your conflicts and lost in the distance between you.
Do you find it hard to control your emotions? Do your emotions often dictate your response? Do you wish you had the techniques to harness your emotions and move forward with your life?
If you answered yes to any of the above, we encourage you to explore Emotion-Focused Therapy or EFT.
EFT is an approach to therapy treatment based on the premise that our emotions are a key to our identity and a guide for decision making. When we lack awareness of our emotions or avoid unpleasant emotions, we are unable to use the information provided by these emotions.
EFT helps individuals to:
- Become more aware of their emotions
- Welcome, allow and regulate emotions
- Describe emotions clearly and in detail
- Evaluate whether the emotions are helpful or hurtful
- Identify the source of unhelpful emotions
- Develop alternative, healthy ways of coping with situations that often elicit hurtful emotions
Unlike other therapeutic approaches, EFT assumes that emotion can be a source of healing and works with specific emotions to increase adaptation.
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is a proven effective treatment for distressed couples as well as individuals. Research studies find that 70-75% of couples move from distress to recovery and approximately 90% show significant improvements. Through the use of EFT, we will focus on strengthening or restoring your loving connection with your partner, increasing your experience of safety, comfort, belonging, and acceptance with each other. As you begin to experience new cycles of interaction, you’ll feel increasingly confident in how much you matter to each other, your ability to lovingly work together to face future challenges and cope with stressors in your life.
If you are seeking help identifying, utilizing and processing your emotions, or reconnecting with your partner or loved one we encourage you to contact us today. Together, we’ll work on increasing awareness of emotions, separating useful from hurtful emotions and using healthy emotions to guide action both individually and in your relationships.